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Free Book Shows How to break Porn addiction

My buddy Roger over at abattleplan just released a Free Ebook on How to break an addiction to pornography

This book was written from the point of view of a regular guy like you and I.  It is very practical in outlining some strategies you can use to break the addiction.  Even though there is a spiritual side included, it is not too heavy to the point of telling you the only thing you need to do is have Jesus.

Please give the book a read yourself and see if you agree with my assessment.  I have to admit to many instances of identifying with the points he made in the book.  For the most part I agree with his approach as to starting on the journey of breaking an addiction to porn.

A nice addition to this book is the resource section at the end.  His book is a good start towards freedom and using the resources at the end you will be able to get further professional help if needed.

Go download the book now!

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Reaping What you Sow

Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man Reaping what you sowsoweth, that shall he also reap.  Galations 6:7

You reap what you sow.  This biblical truth plays out in many areas of our lives.  Whatever you put effort & time into you will receive the benefits & effects back.

  • If you put time & effort into exercise, you will be rewarded with better health, weight loss and stronger muscles.
  • When you put time & effort into your marriage, you will see the results through better communication, more love, respect, & general harmony.

We can also reap negative things if we put our time and efforts into activities that are not wise and even destructive.

  • Those who spend much time in a bar drinking will experience hangovers, fractured relationships, and poor health.
  • If you chase women for one night stands you will reap STDs, divorce, and shame & guilt.

What about those of us who have used or use pornography?   What are we reaping with the sowing of countless hours in front of the computer?  Do you think that there are no effects to you?  What are you reaping by sowing the seeds of pornography into your life?

  • Selfishness?
  • Lust?
  • Inability to communicate deeply?
  • lost time?
  • Strife in your marriage?
  • Shame?
  • A constant focus on Sex?

The things that we reap are often not apparent to us.  It is hard to see the effects that porn has on us because it is very deeply rooted inside.  Many of us won’t act out in a way that will land us in jail or cause divorce.  Just because the effects of Pornography useage are not clear does not mean we are using it without harm.

I challenge you to think about ways that you may be effected by pornography usage.  You cannot use it without any effects on you! 

Please leave any comments, questions and further thought below.

Does a DIY approach to quitting Pornography work?

Once upon a time when I was deeply held by the grips of pornography, I decided that it was time to give this up.  I was sick of the guilt and fearful that it would be found out what I had been doing.  It was time to trash my stash and get rid of the magazines and videos.  After figuring out how to hide my stuff in the trash, I had a small feeling of victory.  You see, at this time I did not comprehend that I was addicted to the stuff.  I could quit at any time.  Pornography was just something I was playing around with.

The first few days were great.  Clean living was the way for me.  Now I feel inside like the clean-cut all American kid I was on the outside.  On to the next challenge in my life.  I can cross out my ‘quit pornography’ item on my list! 

Within the next few weeks, temptations were everywhere.  I could not get my mind off of sex.  At every turn I would see a gorgeous girl, flirt with a co-worker, or watch something on TV that would rev me up.  I needed a release from this built up sexual frustration, so I got a few magazines and was back in the game. 

This cycle was repeated many times in my teens & early twenties – binge on porn, feel guilt & shame, vow to quit, trash the stash and then jump back to the start.  What was I doing wrong?  Why did I feel so helpless against Porn? 

I was ready to give up and just learn to live in both worlds (the real world and the make believe porn world).  I knew that I couldn’t kick this habit on my own, but I did not ever want to tell anyone what I struggled with.   At that time I was going to a Bible study and we would occasionally glance the subject of keeping our eyes away from temptations.  One day, our leader announced to the men of the group that we were starting a men’s only group to address men’s issues.  Specifically- Pornography.  Wow.. I thought that I was the only guy dealing with this in my life. 

This group has been one of the biggest assets in my recovery from pornography addiction.  In this group I have found the confidential support and tools needed to get freedom.  We share our failures, victories, tips for freedom and we hold each other accountable. 

Quitting pornography is not a ‘Do It Yourself’ project.  You need the help and support of another person or a group that can be there for you and help pull you out of the much of pornography.  Pornography loses some of it’s power over you when you expose it through confession to someone. 

Places to find help:

  1. A local church – many churches have addiction recovery resources
  2. XXXchurch.com – This in an online resource for help for porn addicts
  3. SettingCaptivesFree– Setting captives free provides free online studies and gives you a mentor to communicate with.
  4. CandeoCan– CandeoCan is an in-depth program to stop using porn.  You will gain access to a whole program and get a mentor to talk with.

Don’t go it alone.  Get help today.

Warning: Using Porn has side effects

Contrary to popular culture’s stance on pornography, there are side effects to using porn. Drug companies are legally required to warn you of the possible side effects while taking their product. Many people will never experience all of the side effects listed or they will have one or two of them but won’t attribute them to the drug they are taking. It’s the same thing with porn usage. You will have a side effect, but you may not realize or notice it yourself. Sometimes people around you will notice something that you are blind to. Here are a few of the side effects that may be present in you, some obvious, others not so much. 

Here are a few points to ponder if you think porn you can use porn without consequence. 

It amplifies our selfishness

Pornography changes our perception of women

Pornography robs you of your passion for anything else besides itself

Pornography will destroy your ability to be intimate (emotionally) with your spouse and others

Pornography will destroy your ability to be intimate physically with your spouse

Pornography will grow the time you spend in fantasy land

Pornography will make you act differently in the bedroom

Read more on each of these points:  The side effects of using porn – Does porn warp your brain?

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