Overcoming Sexual Temptations – How to resist and win
Sexual temptations are common to all people whether man or woman. We all run into situations where we are tempted in a sexual nature. These temptations can come in the form of a flirtatious coworker, a tantalizing ad or maybe a photo on the internet. Sexual temptations appeal to our inner desire to have sex and be close to someone.
Is temptation a sin? No. Temptations if they are allowed to capture us will lead us into sin, but they are not sin themselves. A temptation is that hook that can draw us into sin. A temptation appeals to our lusts and waits for us to take the bait. A man can see an attractive woman in a revealing top – the temptation. What does he think after seeing the woman, is what determines whether he takes that temptation that appeals to his lust and turns it into sin. It would turn into sin if he mentally undresses her. It would not be sin for him to look another direction and focus his mind on something else.
Temptations appeal to our lusts, or those things we desire which are morally or ethically wrong. Most all of us are sexually tempted because we have a desire for sex. That desire is both physical and emotional. We have desires for things which are wrong. We can lust after another woman or desire to watch a porno. Temptations appeal to these desires and lure us into satisfying the desire.
Not all desires are wrong. We all desire to eat because we get hungry. When we are hungry and see an ad for a cheeseburger, is that cheeseburger temptation? No. It is morally alright to eat and the cheeseburger ad may sway you to heading down to your fast food place, but not wrong.
Temptation comes from the lure of our own evil desires as James 1:14 says. These desires lead to actions. Sinful actions. These evil desires are inside of us. We have the desire to do evil inside of us and temptation wakes us that desire for us to act on.
The key to battling temptation starts with the inside. We have to defeat those evil desires within us. Those desires are written onto our ‘hard drive’ and we have to overwrite them. We can overwrite them with prayer & God’s word. This is not a one-time deal. We have to continually overwrite them because they keep coming back. You need a battle plan.
Pray to God to help you change your evil desires and replace them with desires for pure things. You need help to counteract all those sinful lusts that have found their way to your heart. God can help you if you ask.
You also need to overwrite those lusts with the word of God. Crack your Bible open and find some verses to memorize that counteract your lusts. If you lust with your eyes, memorize Job 31:1 “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a woman”. Read your Bible daily to get God’s word written on your heart. God’s word is more powerful than a two edged sword (Heb 4:12) and has tremendous power to not only save, but destroy the evil desires within you.
Now that you are working on your heart, you need to be aware of where you are tempted and set up a battle plan. If you lust after women with your eyes, you need to set up a plan for numerous scenarios you may encounter that will be temptations. For example: If you are speaking to a woman at work who has a low cut blouse, you decide ahead of time to make eye contact with her or look away when not. You will decide ahead of time what your action will be and then do it when facing the situation.
In other circumstances you will need to heed the Bible’s recommendation and flee temptation. If you are on the internet and see tantalizing ad for free porn, log out and get away from the computer! Flee and don’t let temptation get the best of you. Take the exit God will provide for you.
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Prayer to overcome sexual temptation: Dear God, I am under tremendous temptation at the moment to sin against you. Please give me the strength to walk away from this temptation and focus on what is pure, what is true, what is right and anything that is excellent or praiseworthy. I do not want to fall into sin to please my flesh. Allow your Spirit to fill me and work in me right now. In Jesus’ name Amen.